All around us, where ever we go, there are tripwires. They can be small little things that cause us to pause and rethink a decision or an upcoming event. Then there are the big ones – the ones that show up at random. The tripwire that knocks us over – hit rock bottom begging the question – how do you get up after you fall?
What is a TripWire anyway?
Let me explain; technically a tripwire is an instrument that can be used as a way of alerting a person of potential danger approaching or as a means of setting off an unexpected even or some other form of disruption when a person ‘trips’ over the wire.
Thus, a tripwire is an unwelcome, sudden incident that disrupts the status quo in your life. It crashes into your life, causes you to stumble, fall, even hit rock bottom – whether emotional, financial, physical, even spiritual. How to get up after you fall is finding solutions that help bring balance and clarity to an unstable situation.
In life we come across challenges, they can be a life-changing event or even something small that can be a tripwire. These ‘tripwire’ incidents are unexpected surprises or disappointments we experience throughout our life that throws us off balance, off schedule, causing delays – even detours a life plan. In short, you may even feel you hit rock bottom and are wondering how to get up after you fall!?
The small tripwire incidents may be warning of a greater danger, and are easier to handle – but what if it throws you into a chasm, a black hole of emotions, rock bottom with no exit strategy?
How to get up after you fall when one of these unexpected events happen?
A tripwire can be an illness – such as breast cancer – as it was for me, that threw me off-course and crashed into every area of my life.
This was my latest tripwire in life.
You may find yourself in a similar situation – when you hit a tripwire and life stops being normal and you are wondering – How to get up after you fall?
It’s knowing how to get up after you fall – facing the ‘what’s next’ that can be so difficult in the first moments and days after a tripwire.
How to get up after you fall when one of these unexpected events happen? Here are some simple ways that can show you how to get up when you fall and help you get started:
- Be Quiet – get alone and listen to some soothing music, read your Bible, pray and meditate on the ways you have been blessed in life.
- Breathe – this event may have knocked the wind out of you , so you need to just start breathing again. Take it one day at a time – don’t overload yourself.
- Cry – Let it out and let it go. It won’t change anything, but you will feel better – it’s kind of like an organic detox. Your lungs will open and a freshness of air in your lungs is always a good thing.
- Find someone who will just listen – not give opinion on what you should or should not do – just listen. Keep the naysayers at a distance. They don’t know what you are going through at the early and most sensitive moments after your tripwire incident.
A tripwire is real, and you must know how to get up after you fall over one to move forward and not be caught in the tangles of a tripwire. Don’t freeze.
This next set of suggestions are based on experiences others including myself found to be very logical and helpful ways to get up after you fall and start to bring order into your life;
- Get a puppy. Yes, you heard me right – get a puppy. Actually, a small lap dog that you can hug and hold and even baby. You will be surprised how much delight it will bring you and yes, like a baby – keep you a bit busy, but its worth it.
- Get out of the house. Go to the dog park and meet new people, or take a walk with your new little one – just get out of the house. Sunshine is necessary for every person and it will brighten your day along with refreshing your lungs.
- Stay connected. Whether family, friends, or your church – it’s important to keep living. Your life is not over…yet.
- Downsize. This one is huge and must not be rushed into. Do not do this immediately, wait at least 1 year before make that decision and consider all your options. Don’t rush on this – it can wait.
Every tripwire is devastating. It’s sudden, unexpected, doesn’t make sense, and seems unfair. But with these simple steps you can know how to get up after you fall and what to do next.
And finally…I believe this this sums up beautifully what we can become after a tripwire:
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Here are some links to help you get started.
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